I have been guiding parents with babies & toddler sleep, and settling issues for the past 35 years.
As a mother myself, and having two children who never slept or settled without being rocked or fed, it was a passion of mine to help others in the same situation and to find gentle methods to help them guide their babies to settle independently.
I trained as a maternity nurse and sleep consultant many years ago and have now consulted and guided well over 1000 babies.
I am able to offer sleep guidance for 0-5 years.
Who better than a baby care expert to help you find peace of mind and a happy sleeping baby. Your nights sleep is just a call away.
Contact Deearna now on 07771 660121
1. Sleep is a learnt behaviour and not a given. If you start out by rocking your baby to sleep, your baby will associate this with sleep and will continually expect this process. It is much more beneficial to adopt other gentle methods to help guide your baby to sleep independently without any associations.
Think of your back and posture in the early days when your baby is tiny. You won’t notice this so much in the early days, however as your baby starts to gain weight you may start to notice that you have developed some joint pain.
2. Babies naturally make noises in their sleep; they grunt, groan, root, fidget, little cry outs, pass wind all sorts this is totally normal. What we tend to do as parents in the early days is immediately attend and assume our baby is waking for a feed, this isn’t always the case, babies will have between 0-6 partial wake ups a night. Exactly as I have stated this is a partial wake up, just like many adults have just enough to get comfy again. When this occurs I suggest you just wait and see what your baby will naturally do, you will know if your baby is going to resettle or not, or if a feed is due.
3. Babies have many sleep cycles, it isn’t always the case that once asleep they will remain fully asleep.
Lots of eyes flickering, very light sleep. If your baby is quiet at this stage try not to intervene, move and maybe re-swaddle, we don’t want your baby disturbed during this period otherwise your baby may become alert at the wrong stage and then find it difficult to resettle.
In that he/she may do a couple of small cry outs, this is all fine.
You may then find your baby returns to a light sleep, another brief awakening and so the process starts again. You should find comfort knowing this is a normal cycle and that brief awakenings will, and do happen. Try to realize that a noise or a little cry doesn't always mean an immediate need, after all your baby will probably not even know he/she has done this.
Newborn babies sleep an average of 16 to 18 hours each day, but this varies from baby to baby. Your baby won't have any set pattern of sleeping, and will wake every 2 to 4 hours day and night for feeds during the first few weeks. This is because they've yet to develop their circadian rhythm and as your baby's stomach is so tiny and he will need frequent feeds to keep hunger at bay. You will probably be up at least twice a night so expect to have some sleepless nights in the first few weeks after your baby is born. This phase is necessary for your baby and won't last forever although it may feel never ending when you are sleep deprived.
Circadian rhythm: Biological clock our natural biological clock has certain peak times where it will naturally want to prepare the body for sleep.
Interesting fact: As an adult do you find that during 15.00-16.30 you sometimes feel like you could easily have an afternoon nap?
Our natural biological clock between these hours takes a natural slump. We begin to feel less focused and less alert, and then have this enormous energy surge which takes us through to the evening.
Babies, toddlers and adult sleep is totally different. However what is known is that between 15.00-19.00 babies experience an unsettled period often due to trying to regulate their own internal biological clock.
Babies sleep cycles are much shorter than an adults and they will spend a lot of time in REM (rapid eye movement) sleep. This is a light phase of sleep and your baby will be easily disturbed, but during this time there are a lot of necessary changes happening in their brain. Once your baby is 6 to 8 weeks old they will probably sleep for shorter periods during the day and longer spells at night although he will still wake up for feeds during the night. During this time your baby will have more deep sleep and less REM sleep.
Some babies will sleep through the night at 8 weeks old, but it it more common that they will still wake at night for the first few months, and some can take around a year to achieve this. Sleep patterns can run in families, but developing good sleep habits and routines from the start will help your baby to sleep through the night.
As your baby gets older they will be awake for longer periods of time during the day, and asleep for longer periods during the night. At 3 months your baby will still need around 15 hours of sleep a day, and by the age of 2 they will need 13 hours of sleep each day with one nap in the day lasting for around 90 minutes.
Around the age of 2 to 3 months your baby may have started to settle into a more predictable sleep pattern. Sleep problems can develop even in the best sleeper who has been sleeping through the night up until that point especially if he is teething, celebrating a milestone such as as rolling over or standing up, or going through a change of routine. There are a number of common reasons as to why your baby's sleep has changed. Between 3 and 4 months, 8 and 10 months, and again at 12 months babies will go through a phase called sleep regression. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A REGRESSION WE DON'T REGRESS WE PROGRESS - simply put your child's needs have now changed to what they were...
New babies get tired very easily especially if they've had a lot of stimulation. For some very determined and social older babies sleepiness is annoying and they'll start to cry when they are tired. Babies can move in and out of different states when they are drowsy; irritable, fussy, frustrated, crying, quietly alert, drowsy, active and quiet sleep. You can tell which state they are in by the noises they make and by the way they breath and move.
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After an initial phone, home or Skype consultation I will devise a gentle plan for you to follow. I will personally be in contact with you daily, and you have access to call me anytime 24 hours a day - yes that’s correct, don’t sit and struggle in the middle of the night thinking you can’t disturb me, you certainly can. After all, sleep deprivation in the middle of the night is not fun so call me and let’s get you all back to sleep swiftly.
Depending on your parenting style I will guide you through a settling and routine to fit around your day. I do not advocate cry it out methods Instead I will teach you what the different cries mean.
I have packages starting from as little as £55 depending on your requirements. We also supply night nannies if you are looking for a full night’s respite. Please see our page on what a night nanny does.
Packages start from £55 for a 35 minute phone consultation to assess your concerns. This will be followed up with a detailed email plan for you to follow, and a progress call will also be made.
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